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The Ski Trip

Last January I went on a ski trip to Vermont. I’ve never been skiing in my life. I really just wanted to know once and for all what people do in these lodges. What even is skiing? Is it fun and can I actually do it? This was the first time in years that I had a clump of disposable income, so I signed up for a group trip, bought goggles, snow pants and gloves, and took off for a powdery weekend.

We left the snow free streets of Manhattan and rolled into -35 degree weather and snowdrifts as high as your hips. It was colder than Chicago, where I remember slowly becoming acclimated to freezing cold weather over the course of the 8 years that I spent there. This was a whole new ballgame. I became very grateful for the big gloves that I bought online from Dick’s Sporting Goods.

I have never seen so much snow in my life.

I spent the weekend realizing that I don’t like skiing. I took a lesson, and there was a point where it was starting to click. I managed to ski down a hill with my classmates and even executed what felt like a graceful turn around a corner. But the experience was nerve wracking for me. I went on a ski lift for the first and last time, hating the fact that I was on a little seat dangling in the breeze with nothing holding me in. Then you have to steel your nerves when you jump off at the end.

A guy in my group tried to help me, but tbh, I really just wanted to stop before I broke something. The final straw was getting a good speed going then panicking because kids were skiing in front of me, falling down, but landing in such a way that my feet remained clipped to my skis as I slid down a mountain on my back getting snow up my nose.

The next day I went souvenir shopping.I was not about to risk dying just because sliding down a hill in an inner tube sounds fun. And I wasn’t going snowshoeing, either. The whole adventure was kind of fizzling out simply because I realized pretty quickly that this type of thing is better if you’ve been raised doing it, so that you feel excited about hitting the slopes rather than annoyed and frightened.

The takeaway is that I went somewhere new and tried something that I had no familiarity with. I finally learned how it feels to ski, and now I know that those ski boots make you feel like a transformer. I know what it feels like to take the Moover by myself into town because I was the only black woman in the group and I didn’t really click with the other women. I know what it’s like to possibly be the only black woman on a bigass hill surrounded by mostly white people zipping around with sticks on their feet. A different person might have thrown themselves in and made friends, but then this would be a post about the friends I met while skiing.

Was it horrible? No! I definitely got my money’s worth. Tons of snow, I went through the whole ski boot fitting and ski renting procedure, and now my jacket has a crumpled ski lift ticket dangling from it. I tromped around in the freezing cold and didn’t die. And I have officially been to Vermont.

Winning.

The snow was beautiful, the hotel was snug and perfectly New England in decor. I still carry the moose keychain around every day. I brought back maple candy for all of my co-workers. After this I did my visual merchandising class, my javascript class and my fashion internship. It was the first step on a path towards a more enlightened adulthood. I might try crosscountry skiing next, though. No hills and a clear objective may be better for me, and I’ll get to wear my snowpants.

2020 is coming in a few hours, and I’m mostly satisfied with how the year went, even though it took a sudden hard turn in the middle. I am not living the same life that I was when I went on this trip. I think I had some growth and got some clarity, but I still have a list of things that I want to learn and do. Right now I’m chilling at home with some candles,thinking about my goals and intentions for the year and being grateful that everything ended up ok.

Here’s to a happy and healthy new year to anyone reading this.Take good care of yourself and do everything you can to make good decisions in the coming months. Make realistic resolutions, and be flexible about them.

Good luck!

SEBMarketBK/Faith

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The Breaks

I have not had one minute to spare the last few weeks. It’s super easy to get jobs in New York right now, and I managed to go from my fashion internship, to a temporary summer job to a regular (part-time) job and a freelance job doing visual merchandising and events. So for the first time in my adult life, I have two jobs.

I’m still shocked.

Over the course of the last month I got to use what I learned from umpteen retail jobs, visual merchandising class and my brief showroom experience to merchandise and dress mannequins. The best part is that I have already made back the money that I spent on the class.The worst part is knowing that I could have been doing this all along, if I hadn’t been so obsessed with making it as a photographer. I feel like I wasted a lot of time and caused myself a lot of suffering and unhappiness when I could have been working, building up my savings, gaining experience and making friends. And then I could still have branched out into styling and then photography.

Hindsight is a bitch.

The funny thing is that when I first set out to go to college, I did want to do visual merchandising and this or that happened and I got sidetracked and then jumped into photography. Had I known how sexist and racist that industry was, I would have saved my efforts and put them into something that would have benefited me a lot more. My life would have been completely different. I bet my student loans would be paid off, too.

It’s done now, but let that be a lesson to you.

Until next time,

Faith/SEB Market BK

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The Friends

I’m not going to say how, but I managed to get into the sold-out Friends NYC Pop-up and it’s pretty much everything you’d expect. Check it out. Could it BE anymore perfect?

Way back in the day, before we all just inhaled shows like air and had to watch commercials, there was this weekly sitcom(situation comedy, fyi) called FRIENDS. It was about some people who were friends. The show became a global phenomenon, with the six stars becoming the white hot focus of all the attention that we now lavish on instagram models. They were the Insecure of the 90s/00s.

If you ever thought about how cool it would be cavort on a couch in front of a fountain, the time has come. Awesome replica of the California set created to replicate a New York area that doesn’t exist.

How cute is this?

Character memorabilia is everywhere…of course, right? Including surprises like Rachel’s wigs. This pinstraight, highlighted and blonded bob wig is life. I want one. I’m also in LOVE with this outfit. No one cuts skirts this way anymore. I also feel like shortsleeved turtlenecks are a forgotten treasure.

I don’t want to give away every little thing, but i loved the way this experience brings the show into three dimensional life all around you. Part of the reason that the show was so popular is that people can easily imagine themselves as part of Central Perk gang. Eminently relatable, even at it’s most chaotic and silly moments, the show has become an ever present background noise that’s both comforting and endlessly amusing.

The show is sold out and I got to see it through sheer universal accident? But if you’re in NYC you can try their standby line at 76 Mercer. There’s also a retail shop at 503 Broadway with a timed ticket and standby line. Check them out here for more info.

BTW, since because this blog is about me, here’s an ootd. It was a cool rainy evening and the first time that I had to layer up. I handpainted the back of this Forever 21 camo shirtjacket (which I bought on depop from yakiecast), and wore it over a thrifted Gap pinstriped button down and Hanes v-neck tshirt.

The soft, premium denim skinnies are Buffalo David Britton and found at Century 21. . Old Navy was selling umbrellas 2 for $10 and I got this sweet animal print one. I kind of liked this outfit, even though I had a time putting all my stuff in a purse the size of an eyeglass case (Erin Dana prince minaudiere, $180 for regular people, given away for free at my (former) fashion job). The whole outfir reminded me of the time Joey put on all of Chandler’s stuff.

Good times.

Are you a Friends fan? Who’s your favorite character? What is your stance on camo for fall? Are tiny purses really ‘it’? Discuss.

See you next time!

Faith/SEB Market BK

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The Dr. and the Diva

A little show business adventure right here.

Stephanie Locke and Dr. Steve Salvatore on the set of their new talk show.

I didn’t manage to make it anywhere near a beach this summer because I made six or seven different plans for myself and none of them included relaxing. One of my plans was getting into background acting but I’ve been too busy for auditions. I signed up with Central Casting and haven’t had time to go back with my wigs and glasses to update my look. And every time they text me about a job I either don’t get picked or I’m working that day.

But the universe loves me, so I usually get what I want. Not as much as I think I want, but just enough to let me know I’m on the right track. Like back in the crazy days of blogging when random emails sent me running out the door to fashion shows and product launches, I got a random email looking for paid audience members. Kinda like background acting, and it was an adventure.

They asked for brightly colored tops, so I bought this squash colored eyelet sleeved tshirt at Old Navy and paired it with my fave thrifted Topshop pants. Bigass glasses? Check! Cranberry Stilleto lip whip from Beauty Bakerie? Check (lasts all day, so I figured it was a good move). I got the multi-strand Universal Thread bracelet with brass hardware from Target while I was shopping for toiletries.

We went out to the studio, got breakfast and then worked hard to be good, responsive audience members. I have never clapped so much in my life. We worked through two tapings (with a break for a catered lunch) and then they dropped us back in the city. Not a bad adventure.

The show stars Kimberley Locke, a singer -songwriter who happened to come in third on American Idol in 2003. She’s paired with co-host Dr.Steve Salvatore and together they lead the audience through topical questions, heart wrenching true stories and health, food and beauty segments. The show debuts September 9th on these channels.

See you next time!

Faith/SEB Market BK

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The Code

I’m taking a pre-bootcamp JavaScript bootcamp class and it is HARD. I am scared to go to the gym or even leave the house before class because I need to spend every minute breaking this code down so that I can learn it. I realized with my last post that I can’t do both right this second, so I’m putting this here to remind me that I have to do my homework, do my research and generally surrender every waking moment to getting through the next week.

I’ve never been so happy.

See you soon!

Faith/SEB Market BK

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The Glasses

Alberta and Brayden, my new glasses from Zeelol.

I’ve been wearing glasses since I was 12 thanks to reading under the covers when I was supposed to be sleeping. My mom has 20/20 vision. Unfairness! Anyway, I’ve never had more than one pair of glasses until recently. I thought it was time to start a glasses wardrobe, like a real grownup. It seems like the adult thing to do, instead of having to freak out if I can’t find my glasses or worrying that I might break them and be blind.

I saw an ad for these on some website and found out that you can get crazy, badass fashion glass for the price of a good meal or two bottles of decent pinot. Not only that, they allow you to upload your prescription quickly and easily. AND my glasses were ready almost instantaneously. Amazing. And they shipped immediately. And they showed up on my doorstep a week later. The easy, get it instantly 2019 life is working for me. And having these cute eyeglass cases, and a teeny two headed screwdriver. For $80!

I suck at taking selfies these days but I had to see how I looked immediately. After applying some eyeshadow (because glasses magnify your eyes) and lipstick, and of course earrings… I was going to do outfits, too, but I was too excited. The huge Alberta frames are super dramatic in black with tortoiseshell at the bottom. The oversized brow means that I won’t have to paint mine in, so instant win. I love them. They’re so Oprah!

I chose the Brayden frames because I’ve always been fascinated by cateye frames, but I always get rectangular or square. Instead of rhinestones, these have punk rock conical studs. I was intimidated by the size at first, but the frames are so lightweight I didn’t want to take them off. Both offer me crystal clear, perfect, sharp vision and the larger size gives me more range of vision, I think. I’m definite;y looking at sunglasses. I have never in my life had prescription sunglasses. The luxury!

Check out the affordable frames and sunglasses at www.zeelol.com. Buy a new outfit with the money you save.

See you next time!

Faith/SEB Market BK.

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The Tattooed Shorts

Loox temporary tattoos looking sweet on sundrenched denim cutoffs.

I have been working on these shorts for a year.Technically. I got these jeans free from L.L. Bean (blogger perk) and one day decided to make cutoffs from them. Then I thought I would rehab the cutoffs, so I put them on my crafts trolley. Then I forgot about them, because I was working and somehow there was never any time or inspiration to finish my pile of design projects. It was sad. I wanted to do my thing, but coming home after work, I usually would just huddle in bed, watch netflix and try to go to sleep so I could go to work again. Working on my projects seemed to hard.

Lately I’ve been super inspired (might be because of exercising and better diet, I’m not so depressed), so I’ve been going through my project pile and finally finishing some things, like these cutoffs. I was on instagram and saw an ad for temporary tattoos, and I thought…’YES’!!!

It started with some dipdye bleaching until I had a variety of blues playing across the cotton fabric. Then I started applying the temporary tattoo, which was a few days of my life. First transferring the tattoo to the cloth, then treating it to make sure that the tattoo didn’t just peel off. Waiting for things to dry is sheer torture. But I love the way it looks! I put a few clear, acrylic jewels on the petals like water drops.

Being ocd and sewing on little pearls because little pearls are everything.

Studded, but in a sweet, feminine, Gucci kind of way.

Laid back, beach bum chic.

This awesome carp tattoo looks amazing on the back pockets, across from the gold lame lined distressed pocket. All you need to look summer blessed is a vintage t-shirt and some glitter slides. These shorts are hand painted, distressed and embellished. They’re badass in the most effortless way.

And they only took a year to make.

See you next time!

Faith/Sassy Ethnic Bohemian

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Handpainted,upcycled denim shorts with tattoos, size 6

Re-worked, upcycled SEB Market BK handpainted tattoo cutoffs have been bleached and temporary tattoos applied on the left front and left back pocket. Sequins, acrylic jewels, stars, studs and mini-pearls have been applied. Right side front and back pocket are slashed. Left back pocket is lined with gold lamé. Made of cotton, polyester and elastane. Rise is 10.25 inches. Waist is about 29. Jorts are 12 inches from waistband to hem. *Price includes shipping and handling. **United States customers only, no international shipping.

$125.00

Glitter shower shoes, size 7

Gold glitter double strap slides. Buckles are operational. Contoured soles for comfort, glitter for style. Brand new and never worn. 10 inches from the big toe to the heel. 3 1/2 across the widest part of the foot. *Price includes shipping and handling. **United States customers only, no international shipping.

$35.00