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The Birthday Party

Well…

me and me, memories… I love that little girl so much now! she was so brave. now I’m a hot mess.

Not so much a party as a solitary day doing nothing but caring for myself. On my birthday. With no outside demands to be met or people to bother me. This should be a regular occurrence in my life, but in reality I sporadically remember that I have to do a mask or something, when I should be scheduling this time as a permanent standing appointment in self care. I’d be a better person if I did.

Woke up swaddled in the silky sheets that I bought from Bed, Bath and Beyond (clearance), had a shot of fresh squeezed grapefruit juice flavored with ginger and honey, then went out to do my 5 laps. I got to wear my new mask from Lee Rickie, $15. I saw these on Fashion Bomb Daily maybe two weeks ago? Had to wait for them to make more and then it came the day before my birthday. I’m guessing that masks are going to be pretty common after this quarantine, might as well get a designer one and help a small business stay afloat.

As soon as I got back from my 1 mile run (baby steps…I hate jogging), I ran a bath and started my day of beautaaaayyyy. I love sheet masks and beauty treatments in pouches. You can snatch them up in handfuls and open one up any time you need a little pampering. The theme for today was Holler and Glow, one of the reasons I miss browsing the aisles at Target. I can’t say enough about these incredibly softening purrrfect hand (and foot) masks, $3.99.

I didn’t have anywhere to be and the water was nice and hot, so I just hung out reading a huge book about Cecil Beaton and doing nothing. The Zoya nail polish in Edyta, $10, was a blogger perk. I just love this color against my skin. And I finally got my cuticles under control, which is a massive improvement.

So once I got out of the tub, I messed with all the makeup that I’ve had sitting in the bathroom since I went on multiple Sephora binges last summer. From foundation to false eyelashes, with a hit of grey contact lenses. I actually used up all my lipsticks and have been wearing lip balm lately, so I had to improvise a lip color. I used a Sephora lip pencil, $6, added a layer of Levres rose petal lip gloss from Goldenbrownskin, $5 or 2 for $6, and then finished with a light sweep of Pat McGrath LUST gloss in Bronze Temptation, $28. Topped the whole thing off with a new curly afro wig and tiara.

After all that I was too exhausted to try and dress up. Stuck with my comfy sundress and a comfy hooded Cyrus sweater that I bought at Nordstrom this winter. That sweater cost me like $50 and I’ve worn it a thousand times since I got it in December. Fashion math, it’s basically free.

the birthday dinner

Now that I was all made up, it was time for the big birthday meal, all found in the freezer. I had a frozen mushroom and asparagus risotto kit, seasoned tilapia filet, and fresh spinach that I froze a few weeks ago. I broiled the tilapia with butter on low until it was cooked through and crispy, then squeezed a lemon wedge over it. Ate it with a big glass of lemon water . Once I had eaten the last bit it was time for my present.

Yes. I waited until after dinner. It was the big excitement of the day so I wanted to savor it.

I’m just starting to rebuild my thing with my family, and I don’t have close friends or a boyfriend, so I wasn’t expecting any presents from anyone. I bought myself something pretty, wrapped it with homemade wrapping paper and ribbon and let it sit for a week until the amazing day finally arrived. I had seen ads for Metier Essentials on Instagram, and the Amour necklace, $62, really spoke to me.

I used to be very talkative and fun, but now I’m guarded and I really don’t express much emotion. I guess I’m trying to remind myself to be a little softer and more open. If you’re wondering about the wrapping, it’s just brown paper and I stamped it all over with a rubber heart stamp then put a few glitter heart stickers on it.

Even though I gave it to myself, love is love. I don’t have a clue what the future holds or if I’ll even have a life that’s loud with friendships and family. But I have a heart now. So there’s hope.

Did you celebrate a birthday this week? How did it feel? Were you sad or just happy to be alive and have a place to stay quarantined? Were you scared to try and imagine the future?

Until next time,

Faith/SEBMarketBK

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The New Wig

So while I was gone I bought a new wig. It looks nothing like the old wig, and it does tricks.

The basic straight wig, 1B.

The lob wig that I wrote about makes my head hurt after a few hours, and the thick straight hair makes my neck sweat. So of course I go get another wig, which has more hair since it’s longer. Because I felt like I needed it. To expand my hair range.

I don’t know who I am anymore.

This one looks like what my real hair looks like after being heat straightened. The texture, not the length. It didn’t have bangs or anything, and it has a 3 inch lace front so I can just part it all over the front. And it had the baby hairs already done for wig challenged people like myself. When I got home I started playing with it, then became completely dissatisfied and was mad because I now wanted curls.

I found a youtube video on how to curl your wig and then… I had to figure out how to style a big head of crazy curls every day.

Basically, you can twist the synthetic wig hair or put it in curlers/rods and then dunk the whole thing in boiling water. BE CAREFUL. I handled it with salad tongs. I dipped the hair in the pot, then quickly transferred it to a towel on the kitchen counter, then folded the towel over it. I left that to sit, and then I carefully carried the wig in the towel to the bathroom and put it on a pant hanger to hang from the shower head. I took the rollers out and let it dry then finger combed the curls out. Magic. I have a detangling spray to make it easier to comb out, plus a spray that adds shine so it won’t look dull and dry.

When I got sick of the curls, I dunked the wig again and they simmered down to beachy waves. So this will be a fun game until I get bored again or melt the wig by accident.

See you next time!

Faith/SEB Market BK

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The Wig Story

So I got my hair done in two strand twists in May and after two months I needed a change. I love my natural hair, but I’m doing an organic beauty regimen right now (will post about that later) and I just want my hair to rest. That is a thing.

So I decided to get a wig and ordered one that I thought I could deal with and instead of what I ordered I got something completely different. So different that it felt like a personal attack. Were they overworked at the warehouse and just plucked the wrong item? It’s a mystery.

Do these wigs look alike and I’m just missing something?

Except now I can’t return it because after my initial annoyance I put it on, then cut it. I’m going to try curling it, maybe dye it or something if it’s possible. But until I get it sorted, I still needed a new wig. Something I could wear in public.

I ended up buying my first lacefront wig. It’s a lob with blond mixed in that looks like my real hair if I went to an expensive hairdresser and dated men named Phillippe or Yotembe and shopped anywhere but the clearance rack. I bought middle/upper middle class woman hair.

She ready.

If you’ve never done a wig , you’ll need to braid down your hair and then put a stocking cap over it. The lacefront part is there so you can do stuff like pluck the hairline to make it look natural. You can also glue the lace down and camouflage it with makeup.

I’m not that good at doing the hairline thing, so I just left it alone.

While I’m getting used to my new lob , I just got my Long Hair Don’t Care ayurvedic hair treatment kit from Belle Bar Organic, which is why I couldn’t wait to take my twists out. I’ll be posting about it after using the products a little more. Their site is under construction right now, but you can follow them on instagram for updates and haircare advice.

Chock full of hair goodness…

Hope you’re having a good hair summer and loving yourself! If you’re interested in learning more about wigs and how they evolved to the ubiquitous accessory we love today check out this page .

See you next time!

Faith/SEB Market BK